Ahh Valentine’s Day… Everywhere you look you see happy couples, romantic dinners for two, cheesy posts on social media about how grateful everyone is for their loved one, and even the odd proposal here and there.
Not for me.
Instead, I got a cute text this morning saying Happy Valentines Day from Stephen, but other than that, it will just be our usual day… a few texts here and there, maybe a phone call at lunch then another one before bed.
Ok, so Stephen refuses to say we have a long distance relationship considering he comes home pretty much every weekend, but during the week it is! With him working 200+ miles away, I see that as being pretty far… don’t you?
So I decided to write this post to prove to everyone that having a bit of distance between you can actually work!! Much to many people’s disagreement!!!
Obviously there are some things that make it incredibly difficult, but it’s worth it in the end.
Although I can’t speak for people who live in different countries, it’s definitely relatable for people in the same country, just opposite ends.
So here we go… Pro’s, Con’s and Tips for keeping a long distance relationship going strong!!!
After a long hard day of work and uni or whatever it is you do, if you’ve had a stressful day you just want to come home and cuddle up with your SO, but you can’t…
Exciting news isn’t as fun to share with a phone call. You want to be able to see their face and see them getting excited with you.
You certainly can’t do one thing that all couples love to do together…. WATCH A TV SERIES. Seriously, if you get into it, you don’t want to have to wait a week before you can watch it again and it certainly tests your trust… did they watch one without you? How did they guess what happens… are they lying?!?!
You can forget about living together for now. With Stephen and I, I have uni to finish and he has work, meaning neither of us are able to move closer to one another. It’s just a waiting game till our lives are in a better place to live together.
Speaking of living together, its pretty much impossible saving to get a place together when you’re constantly spending money on travel.
Also, when you both still live with your parents, it’s so hard to make the most of your time together!! No kitchen of your own to cook dinner for each other or together, let alone somewhere to eat said meal just the two of you.
Friends don’t seem to understand that you want to spend time together. It’s harder for Stephen with him being the one living a way, leading to friends falling out with him simply because he wanted to spend time with me rather than going on a lads night out…
You constantly have to choose….
But it’s not all bad…
The feeling you get when you know they are on the way to see you is something else!!
Not to mention when you actually see each other.
Making plans together makes it better, knowing you have something to look forward to with your SO.
Date night is all the more special!! (that’s if you do something nice… our meal last weekend was definitely a bad choice)
Having couple friends (Alex and Danielle… this one’s for you 😉 ) means you can have fun nights out TOGETHER!!!
(tip for people who know a couple in an LDR… INVITE THEM BOTH OUT!!! – not just one.)
The time you spend together, even if you’re both just sat on the sofa scrolling through Facebook, anything you do together is special.
When either of you has some time off, a little longer together is amazing!!!
When you do manage to move closer together, it will be all the more special.
You appreciate you time together so much more!!
Stephen and I find that being apart means we don’t argue as much, and when we do, it lasts 10 minutes before we both apologise, no matter who is in the wrong!
There’s no point wasting your limited time together at each others throats.
Make plans! Whether it be attending a family event, going to the cinema or even a holiday, it gives you both something to look forward to and you know you’ll 100% see each other again soon.
Plan a date night as much as you can. Travel can cost a lot but if you have a date night planned for when you’re both together, it makes it all worth while.
Make that trip!!!
It took me a good year and a half before I drove to Stephen for the first time, mainly because my Dad didn’t think my car would have made it (partly true, my exhaust did fall off the second time I went…) but it’s not as bad as you think and its such an exciting journey!!
You can often get better deals on trains or flights if you don’t drive, so book in advance and make the most of those deals.
Any argument isn’t worth ruining the few days you have together, say your peace, apologise and move on!! Trust me, its the best choice.
Speak as much as you can! No matter how busy you are, reply to the text, answer the phone call (or at least ring them back as soon as you can). You never know when you’ll get to speak to them again or how long it will be so make the most of it.
When you do have extra time together, don’t live in each others pockets. Loosen the reigns a little, give them time to see their friends or visit people, whatever! It will still be you they come home to at the end of the day! (Trust me when I say it took me a while to learn this one).
Talk about the future.
Whether it be a holiday in 6 months, moving in together or even getting married, the more you talk the more it the more it gets you excited and know it will eventually come.
MAKE THE MOST OF IT!!
Your time together is precious, treat it that way!
This post is dedicated to the absolute LOVE of my life!!!
Happy Valentine’s day Stephen!
All my love